Disability and Sex
Individuals who identify as having a disability are still able to participate in sex, sexual intercourse, and identify with a sexual identity. Sexuality is a normal and essential part of life. It is a basic need that makes us human and it is difficult to separate this need from other parts of life.
There are various ways that people with disabilities can have sex. For example, people who live with physical disabilities are still able to take part in sexual activities with the help of physical aids, sex toys, and finding the right positions that makes them comfortable.
Having a disability does not make you less attractive or desirable. Despite what you may have been told or shown, difference is completely natural – bodies come in varying shapes and sizes, and no two people look, feel, smell, taste or sound exactly alike. There’s no ‘normal’ or ‘regular’ body type, even though everything around us from magazines to family and friends may make us feel like there is. able-bodied or with a disability, sex can be liberating, safe and pleasurable. Of course there are people with disabilities who are asexual, but living with a disability does not mean you can’t be sexual.
Sex is not just intercourse and your disability can make you more creative and in tune with your body as you explore your sexuality. Depending on your disability, sex may require more innovation, patience and planning. And so, it’s important to listen to your body, talk with your partner(s), and, when relevant, your health care providers. Get all the information you need to protect yourself against STIs and unintended pregnancies. Some disabilities may affect the type of birth control you use, so it’s important to talk to an informed health care provider.
Celebrate and appreciate all bodies!
Resources and Sources of Information
Myths about Sex and Disability
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